In light of a discussion that I had with a co-worker recently about feminism, I have been paying a lot more attention. Now there are a lot of nice guys who like women, believe in equality for women, but either see feminism as outdated or as something which only the most strident of females believe in or need. When I talk about a patriarchal culture or a rape culture their eyes usually roll into the back of their head. This particular co-worker though had a rude awakening when he asked another co-worker (who was female) about the same thing that him and I had been arguing about.
Which, incidentally, was rape.
Said coworker didn’t believe that rape is as widespread an issue as it is and more than that, that the statistics about sexual harassment were more women not liking comments made or getting hugs rather than anything that he deemed serious.
It is so hard to explain these things for me and my words fail me, so here is a clever representation of what needs to be thought of during the summer time and which will hopefully change some thinking.
Since it’s summer and this mindset begins to pop up more, let us clarify something.
Girls being upset over being seen in bra/panties but not bikinis is not a double standard.
If she’s in a bikini, it’s what she consciously chose to wear and be seen in, in a public space, and like any outfit she was prepared to be seen in it by other people.
If you’ve caught a girl in her underwear, however, you’re probably trespassing in her bedroom, bathroom, or other personal space, where she should be in privacy, and she has every right to be upset if that privacy is violated.
It’s not about what she’s wearing or what it is covering, but rather her privacy and consent to be seen in the first place. Please respect that.